So grateful I was able to nurse both of my babies. For two years each. I’ve encouraged so many new moms to do the same. Most want to give up after a couple weeks because “ I’m so tired. It’s exhausting…”. Yeah. It sure is. But do you want your baby to have a healthy natural diet or do you want to shove chemicals down his/her throat and h…
So grateful I was able to nurse both of my babies. For two years each. I’ve encouraged so many new moms to do the same. Most want to give up after a couple weeks because “ I’m so tired. It’s exhausting…”. Yeah. It sure is. But do you want your baby to have a healthy natural diet or do you want to shove chemicals down his/her throat and hope for the best? The answer seems simple enough. Put on your big girl panties and suck it up mama!!
I was tired nursing my 3 kiddos. Still, I always thought heading to the grocer, lugging in all that formula, mixing, washing and drying and putting away alll those bottles, taking out all the extra trash that goes with those cans… Plus kissing our hard earned money away (well, I was a stay home mom but…) seemed far more exhausting than than simply popping out the perfect temperature …vessel… and letting her rip.
The ease and less work added to the joy and bonding of the whole thing. I wasn’t working either but me and my husband thought this would be best. We have always been able to live on one paycheck with just normal jobs or we adjusted.
I’ll add that it doesn’t have to be exhausting. Contrary to conventional wisdom, co-sleeping (admittedly in carefully considered situations) is safe, and allows parents and newborns to get much needed rest.
This is such a class based issue and a callous narcissistic post. Women who don't have maternity leave, women on medications they can't go off of, women whose milk never comes in and the baby is in danger of starving... go tell them to suck it up. We all wish we could be as great as you Donna.
Yes, of course there are exceptions. But actively discouraging breastfeeding because it is inconvenient is a very bad thing. I was speaking of my own experience with that. I had fallen down hard and went into labor six weeks early and it seemed that there were so many obstacles. How that is narcissistic is very obscure. Also, when I went back to work, I used a breast pump to store milk, and so did another woman I shared an office/cubicle with when she had a baby. Sometimes I went to the babysitter's place at lunch to breastfeed. Are you saying if everybody cannot breastfeed, then nobody should breastfeed? Again, this is a thread about obstacles deliberately put in place, not the obstacles that you listed.
She obviously wasn’t speaking to the mothers who have a significant reason why they can’t breastfeed. She was telling the moms that complained they were just “too tired” with no other obstacles to suck it up. We ALL were too tired but if we COULD do it we did. The only callous comment here is yours.
"Are you saying if everybody cannot breastfeed, then nobody should breastfeed?:"
Nope, did not say that at all, but thanks for not replying at all to my comments and making it all about yourself. You are AWESOME and totally a rock star.
Oh, and I am not great, I am massively stubborn, whatever your actual name is.
Also, where I worked, "maternity leave" consisted of having to leave at seven months and then they held the job open until after the baby was born and daycare was arranged. With NO PAY. This all had to happen in four months time period Again, with no pay.
Please don’t EVEN feel the need to justify your stance! I didn’t see it like that…& anyone who isn’t supportive of one another here “has issues” as far as I’m concerned and is nursing a grudge! (OH MY GAWD!!🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂. I couldn’t have made a better pun!)
Thanks - but I was replying to a post that was not addressed to me, the drop-downs get confusing. My stance still stands, though, and I feel very badly for those who want to breastfeed and cannot.
Wow, just thanks for proving my point. About 90% of "materinity leave" in the US is ONE WEEK. Oh.. you were talking about rich people leave. Yeah, because you are little rich narcs.
You're so right! If everyone can't breastfeed, then no one should be allowed to. In the same vain, I am very jealous of those with good singing voices as I am not one of them. Therefore, singing should be outlawed. And so should art for the same reason.
As I just posted above, I was replying to a post not meant for me, the drop-downs are confusing. My stance is the same. I feel bad for those who want to breastfeed but cannot. We all should lean on each other.
Umm... where did I say this? Nice psychotic break there. This is why Harris lost by the way in every demo BUT rich white people. Total white rich bitches like you respondiong to black women who have waitressing leave who can't breastfeed as "not allowing".
🤣 You need to take your anger issues elsewhere. 1) most people on this Substack voted for Trump, and 2) most are not “rich.” Especially since many of us chose to be stay at home moms, while others had to pay steep childcare costs. 🤣🤣 While I have two degrees and am educated, (contrary to the accusations made by the democrats,) I struggle to make it paycheck to paycheck these days as I cannot return to my career after 25 years away from it raising my kids. So you are the only narcissist here being WAYYYY off on your prejudiced assumptions. You have some serious anger issues.
You do realize that not all white people are rich. Or bitches. Hard to believe, but not all white women are living in Paradise, residing in mansions with their loving, faithful fabulously wealthy husbands there to fulfill their every wish. Try to remember that no matter what someone has, no matter her success, there's always more than one somebody doing better. And no matter how little you have, you can still find more than one somebody doing a lot worse. We're not all equal in talent, opportunity or outcome. That's just the sad fact. But it's always best to appreciate the good that you do have if it's only the ability to get up every morning, feet working, brain intact to go to your lousy job until you figure out how to do better. Most of us are struggling. It may or may not be worse for some because of prejudice, but it's not a given. Many times we get what we expect, for better or for worse.
I see I replied to a comment not meant for me. But my feelings on this still stand. And I did know women who actually asked me why I was going to so much trouble. One woman stopped because her milk would come in when she was out having dinner and it was embarrassing. On the other hand, back then we pretty much knew zip about nutrition, breastfeeding was seen as an eccentric choice, fostered by advertising.
Lack of maternity leave is terrible, but even then, BF can be done. I know, did so for 2 years for 2 babies in a crazy busy job. Milk will come in if baby continues to nurse; in the meantime, the tiny amounts of colostrum are incredibly valuable. Few medications are contraindicated, and some have viable substitutions. My sincere sympathy for those undergoing treatments like chemotherapy who have no alternatives. P.S. Your snark at the end was unnecessary IMO.
So grateful I was able to nurse both of my babies. For two years each. I’ve encouraged so many new moms to do the same. Most want to give up after a couple weeks because “ I’m so tired. It’s exhausting…”. Yeah. It sure is. But do you want your baby to have a healthy natural diet or do you want to shove chemicals down his/her throat and hope for the best? The answer seems simple enough. Put on your big girl panties and suck it up mama!!
I was tired nursing my 3 kiddos. Still, I always thought heading to the grocer, lugging in all that formula, mixing, washing and drying and putting away alll those bottles, taking out all the extra trash that goes with those cans… Plus kissing our hard earned money away (well, I was a stay home mom but…) seemed far more exhausting than than simply popping out the perfect temperature …vessel… and letting her rip.
The ease and less work added to the joy and bonding of the whole thing. I wasn’t working either but me and my husband thought this would be best. We have always been able to live on one paycheck with just normal jobs or we adjusted.
I’ll add that it doesn’t have to be exhausting. Contrary to conventional wisdom, co-sleeping (admittedly in carefully considered situations) is safe, and allows parents and newborns to get much needed rest.
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This is such a class based issue and a callous narcissistic post. Women who don't have maternity leave, women on medications they can't go off of, women whose milk never comes in and the baby is in danger of starving... go tell them to suck it up. We all wish we could be as great as you Donna.
Yes, of course there are exceptions. But actively discouraging breastfeeding because it is inconvenient is a very bad thing. I was speaking of my own experience with that. I had fallen down hard and went into labor six weeks early and it seemed that there were so many obstacles. How that is narcissistic is very obscure. Also, when I went back to work, I used a breast pump to store milk, and so did another woman I shared an office/cubicle with when she had a baby. Sometimes I went to the babysitter's place at lunch to breastfeed. Are you saying if everybody cannot breastfeed, then nobody should breastfeed? Again, this is a thread about obstacles deliberately put in place, not the obstacles that you listed.
It wasn't. You're fine. Ignore. I did NOT breastfeed my 1989 born son and regret it insanely. I loved your comment.
She obviously wasn’t speaking to the mothers who have a significant reason why they can’t breastfeed. She was telling the moms that complained they were just “too tired” with no other obstacles to suck it up. We ALL were too tired but if we COULD do it we did. The only callous comment here is yours.
"Are you saying if everybody cannot breastfeed, then nobody should breastfeed?:"
Nope, did not say that at all, but thanks for not replying at all to my comments and making it all about yourself. You are AWESOME and totally a rock star.
Oh, and I am not great, I am massively stubborn, whatever your actual name is.
Also, where I worked, "maternity leave" consisted of having to leave at seven months and then they held the job open until after the baby was born and daycare was arranged. With NO PAY. This all had to happen in four months time period Again, with no pay.
Please don’t EVEN feel the need to justify your stance! I didn’t see it like that…& anyone who isn’t supportive of one another here “has issues” as far as I’m concerned and is nursing a grudge! (OH MY GAWD!!🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂. I couldn’t have made a better pun!)
Thanks - but I was replying to a post that was not addressed to me, the drop-downs get confusing. My stance still stands, though, and I feel very badly for those who want to breastfeed and cannot.
Wow, just thanks for proving my point. About 90% of "materinity leave" in the US is ONE WEEK. Oh.. you were talking about rich people leave. Yeah, because you are little rich narcs.
You're so right! If everyone can't breastfeed, then no one should be allowed to. In the same vain, I am very jealous of those with good singing voices as I am not one of them. Therefore, singing should be outlawed. And so should art for the same reason.
As I just posted above, I was replying to a post not meant for me, the drop-downs are confusing. My stance is the same. I feel bad for those who want to breastfeed but cannot. We all should lean on each other.
Umm... where did I say this? Nice psychotic break there. This is why Harris lost by the way in every demo BUT rich white people. Total white rich bitches like you respondiong to black women who have waitressing leave who can't breastfeed as "not allowing".
🤣 You need to take your anger issues elsewhere. 1) most people on this Substack voted for Trump, and 2) most are not “rich.” Especially since many of us chose to be stay at home moms, while others had to pay steep childcare costs. 🤣🤣 While I have two degrees and am educated, (contrary to the accusations made by the democrats,) I struggle to make it paycheck to paycheck these days as I cannot return to my career after 25 years away from it raising my kids. So you are the only narcissist here being WAYYYY off on your prejudiced assumptions. You have some serious anger issues.
You do realize that not all white people are rich. Or bitches. Hard to believe, but not all white women are living in Paradise, residing in mansions with their loving, faithful fabulously wealthy husbands there to fulfill their every wish. Try to remember that no matter what someone has, no matter her success, there's always more than one somebody doing better. And no matter how little you have, you can still find more than one somebody doing a lot worse. We're not all equal in talent, opportunity or outcome. That's just the sad fact. But it's always best to appreciate the good that you do have if it's only the ability to get up every morning, feet working, brain intact to go to your lousy job until you figure out how to do better. Most of us are struggling. It may or may not be worse for some because of prejudice, but it's not a given. Many times we get what we expect, for better or for worse.
I see I replied to a comment not meant for me. But my feelings on this still stand. And I did know women who actually asked me why I was going to so much trouble. One woman stopped because her milk would come in when she was out having dinner and it was embarrassing. On the other hand, back then we pretty much knew zip about nutrition, breastfeeding was seen as an eccentric choice, fostered by advertising.
Lack of maternity leave is terrible, but even then, BF can be done. I know, did so for 2 years for 2 babies in a crazy busy job. Milk will come in if baby continues to nurse; in the meantime, the tiny amounts of colostrum are incredibly valuable. Few medications are contraindicated, and some have viable substitutions. My sincere sympathy for those undergoing treatments like chemotherapy who have no alternatives. P.S. Your snark at the end was unnecessary IMO.