Nature designed men to be the protectors and the providers, and for women to be the nurturers and the caretakers.
We are all better off when we understand that men and women are unique and different, and that we need each other and need to work with each other to keep civilization running a little more smoothly.
There has never been and never will be any proof of this. Your impressions of human history come from a completely whitewashed version where humanity has been tinkering around with sticks and stones for hundreds of thousands of years slaughtering each other raping each other and failing to organize in any meaningful way. None of this is true and as long as you go on believing it you're going to continue to hate on us
I left my son's first day of kindergarten crying my heart out because it felt to me that morning he was now in the hands of an institution, and not mine. Sure, it was silly of me. But it sure hurt at least for that one morning; two hours later he was back home.
The Bible teaches us there is nothing new under the sun, which includes both your dark view of human history and the more hopeful and satisfying view of Liz LaSorte. That said, your point was lost on me.
My mom was the youngest of her siblings. She was the only one to get to go to college, got her degree, worked about 5 years, and then got married and stayed home to raise a family. She was the choir director at our church, which took up lots of time on Sundays and Thursdays, but that was her only paying job.
My brother’s wife got a teaching degree and worked as a teacher a few years after getting married, then raised her family and never went back to work.
My own wife got a teaching degree, got married, and worked the whole time (and still is), only taking time off for maternity leave. We raised our kids together, probably as mediocre parents, together.
Keep your options open, sure, but also keep ear plugs handy for when that 2am screaming baby is inconsolable on your shoulder. No, I’m not kidding.
Until you’ve stepped on a Lego at 3:00 am trying to get to a crying child, or take the only pee you’ve had time to take since the prior Tuesday, you can’t claim proper parenthood.
Great article Jenna! I had the joy of being a stay-at-home mom, like my mother, raising five children and being a pastor's wife. It was something we chose right from the beginning and God blessed it and provided everything we needed included being able to send them to Christian Schools that I was very involved in. My prayer is that many young women will see the value of staying home and being their children's caregiver, discipler, and cheerleader! ❤️
I picked "pure internet BS" because that is basically all of instagram and tiktok. Don't people get sick of scrolling an endless feed of people telling them what to do?
Also spoiler: working moms still do all the things stay at home moms do. Men mow the lawn, take out the trash, fix things, and man the barbecue. My kids were raised at "the Learning Garden" and we took them to church. Taking them to church and making them do youth group was the smartest choice. Keeping nicotine urine tests and drug tests in the house and having zero tolerance for underage drinking was the second smartest.
Ironically, this topic came up between me and my wife this past weekend. For background, we live a "traditional" life to where I work and she's runs the house. I actually made the realization that when we met, I was making X amount, but in the time we've been together, my salary has doubled. My argument was that if we ever were to break up, she could legally make the argument that that's half her money because it was her taking everything else that allowed me to generate more income. Now of course, we'd never want that to happen, but my point was that my income scaled with and only with her so she played a very valuable role in that.
This new PR attempt to bash "traditional" lifestyles is the same propaganda from the 60s that made women want to stop being at home. Literally, between laws, policies, movies, TV shows, a whole generation of women stopped wanting to be at home:
The greater point I was attempting to make is that it takes two to run a household. I can focus solely on work because she runs the household. She can focus solely on the household because I work. Yes, not everyone can afford this, but it is very much so attainable.
The fear of "divorce" is one that is used often and part of the PR campaign. As I told my wife this weekend, she's literally entitled to half of that, so I would never want to go that fight. Curious (but not really) to the two women's financial status post divorce.
Love the statement: "This isn’t about tradwifery; it’s about not being fiscally ignorant in your marriage. "
Some of us don't love the domestic life and need a job outside the home to feel fulfilled. In hindsight, I wish I had worked part time. The land/house we bought (which we love) would have been impossible without my salary, however. Thankfully, we had grandparents in the area to help out when the kids were young, which was crucial when husband worked weekends and night shift.
I taught for 34 years and now run our home. And I love it. Nothing could induce me to get back into education. Institutions are corrupting. I remember often adopting the views held by my institution, defending it, which sometimes meant actively working against my own personal views. For feminists to argue that working in an institution (mine was higher ed) is somehow empowering and freeing, I argue that it's the opposite: it's actually stifling.
My wife and I raised 3 boys - 2 adopted, and 1 because "the miracle happened!" She was a nurse and worked the 7 PM to 7 AM shift. I got home from work ASAP (worked 1 hour away), and took over as parent in the evenings when she went to work 4 days a week. It was tough in the early middle and high school years. But as the boys got older, we tried to instill in them "self-sufficiency." It kind of worked mostly. We've been married 47 years and I don't plan on getting "another younger one."
The reason we've been together so long is that I have been instilled with the saying, "What is mine is hers. What is hers is hers!" I still make most of the important decisions, like: What are we going to do in the Middle East? What should be the next move on the international front? etc. She makes the other decisions: Where we are going for vacation. What should I buy to make dinner. What kind of deck we are putting on the house. (You get my drift?)
I have zero proof of this, but it seems more likely that the men who walk out of a marriage just might be married to the Jennifer Welsh's of the world. Even the name of her podcast, "I've Had It" is off putting.
Socialism/communism requires that everybody work. "From each according to (their) ability...." the government decides what you will do for work and when (your ability). And then "... to each according to (their) need....." they decide what you get paid and how you live (your "need"). Socialism/communism thus demands women work on the chain gang or go to the gulag, just like the men. Feminism is socialist/communist ideology, snuck in a different way. It is consistent that socialism/communism insists women put work first, because in a socialist/communist society the state comes first before the needs of the citizens.
There will be no "trad wives" when the socialist revolution comes, so enjoy it while you can. President AOC will allow you to freeze your eggs, but that's about it. And there's no guarantee that when the state decides to allow you to have children with frozen eggs, it'll be your original eggs the state returns to you (if they can find them), or whether they socialize your womb too.
This is also why socialist/communist forces have been attacking the family so relentlessly. There are no socialist/communist "trad wives". There are a lot of socialist/communist single moms though... Traditional families are resilient and require less state intervention than "modern" families, and are therefore the enemy of the socialist/communist movement.
The picture that is painted is a woman having a career as the CEO of a company. In reality many of these end up working at a grocery store or a maid service (doing what they would be doing at home). I believe this was a ruse to get double the workforce and have competition resulting in lower wages. This also resulted in higher home prices because people would ultimately be bidding against a couple that had two incomes instead of one. Daycare as well is an industry created by this goading of women out of the home and into slavery. Don't get me wrong, there are some women that excel in this environment and love the opportunity to follow their dreams. There are also a lot of men that would prefer to stay home with the kids rather than do some meaningless job. It is all about freedom in how you want to live you life.
Many wives and husbands would like to stay home with their kids. When I worked for a corporation, my wife would come meet me for lunch with our daughter and it was soooo hard to say goodbye after lunch and go back to corporate work even though I enjoyed my work. Within one year of this, I started my own business working from home and never looked back. Starting my own business was good long run financially as well as for independence. But being able to spend my days watching my kids grow up was priceless. It made me a part of my family in ways that could never happen in a 9 - 5 job (that always demanded overtime for loyalty).
Is it just me (disclaimer, I'm a man), or is this a lot of griping from women who thought they could have it all, but are growing old alone, without children, without grandchildren, and without husbands because they bought into that whole bicycle/fish notion or they chased off their men because they were too self-absorbed to realize a man wants to feel needed, and is willing to put up with a lot for the love of a good woman and not one who is reminded of his worthless lot in life?
Because I'm pretty sure that with an attitude like that they're not going to attract or keep any man as well as they will sympathetic co-complainers.
Men won't leave women who will work alongside them to raise a family, and will LOVE them back.
Many men lead lives of quiet desperation. They want someone to be open to, and vulnerable with, and who won't have a knife ready to plunge into their back. Men want support from a safe environment, not battling it out with co-workers or competing with them for a mate. They see plenty of miserable women at work, and probably work for a few who feel they have to compete with men to climb the ladder, and don't mind proving their worth by stepping on a few men in the process.
I'm sure we've all known men with families who work 20-30 years at unfulfilling jobs they despise just in order to take care of their wive and children.
No one can predict how their life, or even their marriage, will turn out. We make the best choices we can *at the time* and when something unexpected happens, we adjust. And nothing is more important for a couple than making (and understanding) financial decisions together. Both partners working has put a tremendous stress on modern marriages. Two working parents are doing three full-time jobs, one parent at home and one in the workforce, two people doing two full-time jobs, and the single parent is doing two full-time jobs alone. I'm retired now, but I've been in all three scenarios, and the one parent at work, and one parent at home, is the best arrangement hands down. If you can make it work.
Our family and most in our church have chosen the traditional/biblical home. Dad protects/provides and leads where mom keeps the home and children. God and His Word is taught. Never have we seen anything but God blessing His plan with these families.
During the period we call the Early Republic in the late 18th century, there was a wide spread value in America called Republican Motherhood. Republican motherhood held that women had a crucial role in raising children to uphold republican values, particularly during and after the American Revolution. This ideology emphasized women's responsibilities in the domestic sphere as educators of future citizens, promoting civic virtue and morality.
My mom was born Ruth Laughlin in 1920 and she was a wonder woman. She always knew whether to use mercurochrome or iodine, and our home hummed like a well-oiled machine. My dad managed an entire woolen company with 50,000 employees and I always thought her job was magnitudes harder. But I know she loved every minute.
“Because our mothers and grandmothers didn’t fight for jobs—they fought for choices.”
Boom. Mic drop.
Bad ass as always, my beautiful friend. 🙌🤬🍑❤️
Nature designed men to be the protectors and the providers, and for women to be the nurturers and the caretakers.
We are all better off when we understand that men and women are unique and different, and that we need each other and need to work with each other to keep civilization running a little more smoothly.
It’s not nice to fool Mother Nature: https://lizlasorte.substack.com/p/its-not-nice-to-fool-mother-nature?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web
There has never been and never will be any proof of this. Your impressions of human history come from a completely whitewashed version where humanity has been tinkering around with sticks and stones for hundreds of thousands of years slaughtering each other raping each other and failing to organize in any meaningful way. None of this is true and as long as you go on believing it you're going to continue to hate on us
Think what you want, but I love God 100% - or at least I try to - thus, I do not hate anyone.
Have you dropped off your 8 week old at day care? If not, you have no understanding of the pain that creates. There is a better way.
Dang, that’s just one angry person right there. Someone pissed in her canteen. 😳
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I left my son's first day of kindergarten crying my heart out because it felt to me that morning he was now in the hands of an institution, and not mine. Sure, it was silly of me. But it sure hurt at least for that one morning; two hours later he was back home.
Maybe her sourdough starter died. It does throw one for a loop when that happens.
I have a daughter, and frankly I'm sick of your man hate. Get used to replies like this. lady.
Where do you get “man hate”? I’m lost here
I don't see the man hate, either! Someone got out of bed on the wrong side.
You should learn about a little something called “blocking”. It gives us the freedom to choose NOT to get used to screwballs like you. Imagine that!
also I'm done with jenna's side. unfollowed. sick of the comments frankly. topics are lame. have a nice life!
Hahahaha but you brought such insight and joy! You'll be missed. ;)
Love when they proclaim they are leaving….. 🙌
Wait! Is it too late to BLOCK?
They are sure afraid of something. They wreak of it. Already blocked.
Man hate...ah, gotchya. I love my husband, and he's a man, so you are wrong about that.
Who hurt you, sunshine?
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Lolol we will all be better off not having to deal with your lunacy. Thanks for the favor! Toodles!
Hate who? Who is "us?"
men.
Thanks. As is obvious, I'm a little slow to pick up what's going on sometimes.
I didn’t understand either
The Bible teaches us there is nothing new under the sun, which includes both your dark view of human history and the more hopeful and satisfying view of Liz LaSorte. That said, your point was lost on me.
You think rape and slaughter is "white-washed." You don't even know what words mean.
Preparing the future generation to be contributing responsible adults is the ultimate job.
If its not for you, leave it to someone else who understands the concept…please!
My mom was the youngest of her siblings. She was the only one to get to go to college, got her degree, worked about 5 years, and then got married and stayed home to raise a family. She was the choir director at our church, which took up lots of time on Sundays and Thursdays, but that was her only paying job.
My brother’s wife got a teaching degree and worked as a teacher a few years after getting married, then raised her family and never went back to work.
My own wife got a teaching degree, got married, and worked the whole time (and still is), only taking time off for maternity leave. We raised our kids together, probably as mediocre parents, together.
Keep your options open, sure, but also keep ear plugs handy for when that 2am screaming baby is inconsolable on your shoulder. No, I’m not kidding.
ear plugs, best invention ever
Until you’ve stepped on a Lego at 3:00 am trying to get to a crying child, or take the only pee you’ve had time to take since the prior Tuesday, you can’t claim proper parenthood.
Great article Jenna! I had the joy of being a stay-at-home mom, like my mother, raising five children and being a pastor's wife. It was something we chose right from the beginning and God blessed it and provided everything we needed included being able to send them to Christian Schools that I was very involved in. My prayer is that many young women will see the value of staying home and being their children's caregiver, discipler, and cheerleader! ❤️
Wonderful to hear. Put a huge smile on my face this morning.
I picked "pure internet BS" because that is basically all of instagram and tiktok. Don't people get sick of scrolling an endless feed of people telling them what to do?
Also spoiler: working moms still do all the things stay at home moms do. Men mow the lawn, take out the trash, fix things, and man the barbecue. My kids were raised at "the Learning Garden" and we took them to church. Taking them to church and making them do youth group was the smartest choice. Keeping nicotine urine tests and drug tests in the house and having zero tolerance for underage drinking was the second smartest.
Ironically, this topic came up between me and my wife this past weekend. For background, we live a "traditional" life to where I work and she's runs the house. I actually made the realization that when we met, I was making X amount, but in the time we've been together, my salary has doubled. My argument was that if we ever were to break up, she could legally make the argument that that's half her money because it was her taking everything else that allowed me to generate more income. Now of course, we'd never want that to happen, but my point was that my income scaled with and only with her so she played a very valuable role in that.
This new PR attempt to bash "traditional" lifestyles is the same propaganda from the 60s that made women want to stop being at home. Literally, between laws, policies, movies, TV shows, a whole generation of women stopped wanting to be at home:
https://unorthodoxy.substack.com/p/what-kind-of-torture-makes-a-mammal
Ultimately, I've called this an attack on life. An attack on the woman and an attack on the male -- all to stop life from growing: https://unorthodoxy.substack.com/p/how-feminism-and-dei-destroy-humanitys
The greater point I was attempting to make is that it takes two to run a household. I can focus solely on work because she runs the household. She can focus solely on the household because I work. Yes, not everyone can afford this, but it is very much so attainable.
The fear of "divorce" is one that is used often and part of the PR campaign. As I told my wife this weekend, she's literally entitled to half of that, so I would never want to go that fight. Curious (but not really) to the two women's financial status post divorce.
Love the statement: "This isn’t about tradwifery; it’s about not being fiscally ignorant in your marriage. "
Some of us don't love the domestic life and need a job outside the home to feel fulfilled. In hindsight, I wish I had worked part time. The land/house we bought (which we love) would have been impossible without my salary, however. Thankfully, we had grandparents in the area to help out when the kids were young, which was crucial when husband worked weekends and night shift.
I taught for 34 years and now run our home. And I love it. Nothing could induce me to get back into education. Institutions are corrupting. I remember often adopting the views held by my institution, defending it, which sometimes meant actively working against my own personal views. For feminists to argue that working in an institution (mine was higher ed) is somehow empowering and freeing, I argue that it's the opposite: it's actually stifling.
Good article Jenna.
My wife and I raised 3 boys - 2 adopted, and 1 because "the miracle happened!" She was a nurse and worked the 7 PM to 7 AM shift. I got home from work ASAP (worked 1 hour away), and took over as parent in the evenings when she went to work 4 days a week. It was tough in the early middle and high school years. But as the boys got older, we tried to instill in them "self-sufficiency." It kind of worked mostly. We've been married 47 years and I don't plan on getting "another younger one."
The reason we've been together so long is that I have been instilled with the saying, "What is mine is hers. What is hers is hers!" I still make most of the important decisions, like: What are we going to do in the Middle East? What should be the next move on the international front? etc. She makes the other decisions: Where we are going for vacation. What should I buy to make dinner. What kind of deck we are putting on the house. (You get my drift?)
I have zero proof of this, but it seems more likely that the men who walk out of a marriage just might be married to the Jennifer Welsh's of the world. Even the name of her podcast, "I've Had It" is off putting.
😂😂
"Women were encouraged to put themselves—not their demanding spouses or their annoying spawn—first for a change. Get a job!"
Where putting themselves first very likely includes paying massive sums for childcare after paying taxes on their earnings. Great for "the system."
I'm not extremely well-qualified to tell women, or anyone else, how to live their lives, but I don't think anyone else is either.
Socialism/communism requires that everybody work. "From each according to (their) ability...." the government decides what you will do for work and when (your ability). And then "... to each according to (their) need....." they decide what you get paid and how you live (your "need"). Socialism/communism thus demands women work on the chain gang or go to the gulag, just like the men. Feminism is socialist/communist ideology, snuck in a different way. It is consistent that socialism/communism insists women put work first, because in a socialist/communist society the state comes first before the needs of the citizens.
There will be no "trad wives" when the socialist revolution comes, so enjoy it while you can. President AOC will allow you to freeze your eggs, but that's about it. And there's no guarantee that when the state decides to allow you to have children with frozen eggs, it'll be your original eggs the state returns to you (if they can find them), or whether they socialize your womb too.
This is also why socialist/communist forces have been attacking the family so relentlessly. There are no socialist/communist "trad wives". There are a lot of socialist/communist single moms though... Traditional families are resilient and require less state intervention than "modern" families, and are therefore the enemy of the socialist/communist movement.
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The picture that is painted is a woman having a career as the CEO of a company. In reality many of these end up working at a grocery store or a maid service (doing what they would be doing at home). I believe this was a ruse to get double the workforce and have competition resulting in lower wages. This also resulted in higher home prices because people would ultimately be bidding against a couple that had two incomes instead of one. Daycare as well is an industry created by this goading of women out of the home and into slavery. Don't get me wrong, there are some women that excel in this environment and love the opportunity to follow their dreams. There are also a lot of men that would prefer to stay home with the kids rather than do some meaningless job. It is all about freedom in how you want to live you life.
Many wives and husbands would like to stay home with their kids. When I worked for a corporation, my wife would come meet me for lunch with our daughter and it was soooo hard to say goodbye after lunch and go back to corporate work even though I enjoyed my work. Within one year of this, I started my own business working from home and never looked back. Starting my own business was good long run financially as well as for independence. But being able to spend my days watching my kids grow up was priceless. It made me a part of my family in ways that could never happen in a 9 - 5 job (that always demanded overtime for loyalty).
Is it just me (disclaimer, I'm a man), or is this a lot of griping from women who thought they could have it all, but are growing old alone, without children, without grandchildren, and without husbands because they bought into that whole bicycle/fish notion or they chased off their men because they were too self-absorbed to realize a man wants to feel needed, and is willing to put up with a lot for the love of a good woman and not one who is reminded of his worthless lot in life?
Because I'm pretty sure that with an attitude like that they're not going to attract or keep any man as well as they will sympathetic co-complainers.
Men won't leave women who will work alongside them to raise a family, and will LOVE them back.
Many men lead lives of quiet desperation. They want someone to be open to, and vulnerable with, and who won't have a knife ready to plunge into their back. Men want support from a safe environment, not battling it out with co-workers or competing with them for a mate. They see plenty of miserable women at work, and probably work for a few who feel they have to compete with men to climb the ladder, and don't mind proving their worth by stepping on a few men in the process.
Men need nurturing too.
PS. Have you seen the values being pushed on kids these days in schools? Who wants to have children without a good influence in the home?
I'm sure we've all known men with families who work 20-30 years at unfulfilling jobs they despise just in order to take care of their wive and children.
I give you Jennifer Welsh.
Jenna seriously is Meme Pro Level+++
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No one can predict how their life, or even their marriage, will turn out. We make the best choices we can *at the time* and when something unexpected happens, we adjust. And nothing is more important for a couple than making (and understanding) financial decisions together. Both partners working has put a tremendous stress on modern marriages. Two working parents are doing three full-time jobs, one parent at home and one in the workforce, two people doing two full-time jobs, and the single parent is doing two full-time jobs alone. I'm retired now, but I've been in all three scenarios, and the one parent at work, and one parent at home, is the best arrangement hands down. If you can make it work.
Our family and most in our church have chosen the traditional/biblical home. Dad protects/provides and leads where mom keeps the home and children. God and His Word is taught. Never have we seen anything but God blessing His plan with these families.
During the period we call the Early Republic in the late 18th century, there was a wide spread value in America called Republican Motherhood. Republican motherhood held that women had a crucial role in raising children to uphold republican values, particularly during and after the American Revolution. This ideology emphasized women's responsibilities in the domestic sphere as educators of future citizens, promoting civic virtue and morality.
My mom was born Ruth Laughlin in 1920 and she was a wonder woman. She always knew whether to use mercurochrome or iodine, and our home hummed like a well-oiled machine. My dad managed an entire woolen company with 50,000 employees and I always thought her job was magnitudes harder. But I know she loved every minute.
Maybe not EVERY minute 😉😂